I am not the most eloquent speaker, nor the most gifted writer, but I have learned how to phrase things to be the least offensive and most easily understood. Granted, you can never please 100% of the people 100% of the time, but I aim to make as many happy as possible, So why do people insist on being abrasive to the point of abusive?
Anyone who knows me would tell you I am one of the most easy going and forgiving people they know. So for someone to push me to the point of “The Rage” (that tight feeling you get in the center of your chest when something really gets to you), it is usually pretty bad. One of my hot buttons is disrespect and an unwillingness to compromise on a point.
Today at work I was working on a new webpage for an application we are rolling out. Me and a coworker were fleshing out the header paragraph and it was looking pretty nice when they proposed a final change that I did not agree fully with. I replied with a rewrite, incorporating some of their ideas with some of my own. Two minutes later they arrived at my desk and ask “why don’t you like what I wrote?” I began to explain my issue with what was written when I was abruptly cut off with an explanation of why it was fine. I began to finish my statement when again, I was cut off.
At an impasse, I asked why they were so intent on keeping this specific section. Unhappy with the response provided, I stated my objections; again I was given an abrasive response that was said with the tone of “Fuck you”. Realizing this was going no where, I simply said fine and changed the wording they chose, but was sure to escalate this issue to their boss for some good ol’ CYA action.
The encounter left me quite aggravated, the disrespect of being continually interrupted and their insistence on “their way or the highway” is not the way to conduct business, nor is it the way to interact with another human being. If this problem was discussed in a civil matter, it would have been fine, but it was the way it was phrased was completely out of line.
